Relationship Recovery

Relationship Recovery

Has your relationship lost its sparkle, or if you are in a relationship that’s in crisis, chances are you are wondering how you got to this place. It’s not a nice place to be, and can be a long way from the carefree and nurturing days at the beginning of your relationship.

All relationships go through highs and lows – but if yours seems to be stuck in the low you start to feel unloved.

This then makes the relationships worse as you will start to feel resentful towards your partner and scrutinizing his every move.

Eventually this puts you both on edge and increase the tension between you. You may feel as though you are the only one that wants to save this relationship, while at the same time wonder if you can do it on your own.

We were never taught how to be in relationship so being unsure of the correct things to do so you don't make it worse.

I’m here to tell you that change is possible, you can rescue and repair your troubled and wounded relationship.

Often at the start of a relationships everything is perfect, you are both caught up in the feelings and chemistry. As we start to settle into the relationship things we do trigger are partners and they in turn trigger us and that is where disconnection happens.

Mostly, you are not trying to hurt your partner (though some do, but that is for another article). The triggers are subconscious and often not related to the person that you are in relationship with now. For example:

• They look at you in a certain way that makes you feel uncomfortable

• They make a promise but not follow through

• Little things come out as you start to get to know the person that cause alarm bells for you

Often these are not related to the situation you are in now but subconscious triggers from past hurts and beliefs.

The other thing that happens is you get in to an emotional tug of war with your partner as you both try to feel heard but feel misunderstood.

I have worked with couples and this makes it easier as both partners will become aware of the patterns and can make changes together.

I want to reassure you that also only by working directly with you can make significance differences whether your partner is on board or not.

By you making changes to how you interact in situations can diffuse the negative relationships dynamics which in turn improves the relationship.

Book your free 30 minute coffee chat with me to be heard and start to work out a plan of action.